Regret mom: A story of circumcision

I am a regret mom, don't do what I did.

It isn’t what you think… well maybe.. no complications from the medical standard became of our sons circumcision but I later learned what I wish I knew when pregnant. I learned that it wasn't a decision for parents to make, that we should allow our sons to make.

My husband already had a son and together we had a daughter I hadn’t had to think about this major surgery before, its not something I had ever looked into before. I had met people who I knew hadn't had their sons circumcised but the why wasn't something I knew. I wasn't educated on the topic of circumcision. I remember asking my mom and she told me my brother was because that was what the normal was, she has been told that it is what you did.

I am disappointed at myself because I look into everything from childbirth to vaccines and a little of everything in between but why wasn’t this topic as important? Why do we spend more time planning a baby shower or doing research for the latest stroller, car seat and crib than we do a circumcision?? Have you stopped and watched a video on the procedure being done to a newborn child? Have you seen a child pass out from all the pain?

Do we prefer to regret a decision that to become educated on the topic?

I have heard my own ob/gyn tell me it was safe and better for our sons. I have heard several other families being told that the procedure happens so fast that the child doesn’t even feel it. I am going to tell you all of that information is a lie. Choose to do your research to look into this very BIG surgery more than you do say... a fancy baby shower.

I ask you this, if you are thinking of having your son circumcised because you feel it is your decision to make watch this video on YouTube called, Elephant in the hospital. I was not able to sit and watch the procedure from start to finish. I had to walk away because I could not stand to see the pain on the child’s face!

Now maybe you are thinking well you don’t have to watch it be done and your right you don’t but would you not watch your child at a park? Would you not watch your child cross the street? These are all to some very simple things to do but most of us would fear that something many happen to our children if we let them go on their own. I don’t think the fear is always that our children can’t complete the task but that someone may not be as careful as we are teaching our children to be.

Our son Michael was just a day old when he was taken to be circumcised I felt this pain in my stomach like something was wrong. We thank God that our son came out because we also later learned about botched jobs, and death from bleeding after.  I had gone with the wrong decision, I regret the decision we had made.

I had to be careful not to hurt him while changing his diapers. I had to wipe his tears from crying so much although I was told he didn’t “really” cry.  That is a LIE! Our sons feel the pain and they don't understand why. They should never had to go through pain there are no health benefits.

WHY must we continue to have this barbaric procedure done on our sons when the risk outweigh any would be benefits?

If you are reading this because you are looking into the topic please read and click on all the links above, if you are reading this because you regret your decision please share this post, and if you were one of the lucky ones who did the research thank you!!