Hi again! I hope you are all doing well. This week made about 10 weeks into the secret pregnancy and since it has been a while since I posted I wanted to fill you in on what’s been happening.
It is still a secret
We still have yet to make a pregnancy announcement. I’ll be honest being so close to the holidays it was hard because I saw every single other announcement go up. I also had to see some friends post about their loss. Those posts not only broke my heart but reminded me of my losses and how hard it can be to grieve when the entire world knows you’re expecting. I can’t go through that again.
So, for now, child my brother, husband, a very close friend and of course the kids know.
How I’m feeling
Well, I can say this time around I am not as sick. I am able to hold down food for the most part but from getting hungry, eating and becoming very full doesn’t take much. This is when small meals or snacks are a good idea.
I am enjoying the fact that I get to share my pregnancy when I feel ready and with whom we want. Julio recently let his manager know and know well the entire restaurant knows, that was fast. This time I don’t feel like I am on a time clock. I don’t have to post what anyone else wants or when they want. I won’t have to worry about all the messages asking if the baby is here. I will announce when the time is right and trust me THIS IS GOING TO BE THE BEST ANNOUNCEMENT!
I am sure I will see more people really starting to have secret pregnancies. I am not saying that pregnancy isn’t something to be proud of because I don’t care if this is your first or your tenth every single pregnancy and child should be celebrated.
When I say I see more people having a secret pregnancy I mean taking control, deciding who they want to include and when. Knowing that they don’t have to announce because the two lines appear on the test or when they hit 12 weeks. No one has to know the gender of the baby if you don’t want to know or even share. The information you share is up to you the parents. I can say that 10 weeks in (give or take a few) I am enjoying it. I am not saying I don’t want to stand on something stable enough to hold me and yell it out but I know that I am making the best decision for me and my family.
I have had no formal prenatal care. I have taken my blood pressure once a week and for the right time stepped on the scale. I also have done the pee strips to check for protein. That is all I have needed to do. No ultrasounds or dopplers for dating or size. I feel great and have no signs that I need to seek care.